Reason, Season, Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

-poem by Aleksandra Lachut

You know I've been thinking about this lately and it is definitely true, but...WHY do we have to have "season or reason" friends? If these people come into our lives and make a difference than why can't they stay a part of our lives? What is it that tears friends apart or leads us in opposite directions? I know that life happens and paths take you different directions sometimes but why can't those paths continue to cross? And how can we look back at our lives and wonder why some people are not still in it? You know...I miss some of those people who were "reason or season" friends. I want more "lifetime" friends. Is that so much to ask for? Can you have too many friends? Is that why? Do you get to a certain quota? I'm writing this to say that from now on I want "lifetime" friends...I'm finished with "reason or season" friends and if you were once in my life than I still want you to be in my life. There's still so much life that's yet to happen and I want those who have known me from all stages to be involved even if you were a "reason or season" friend...let's make it a "lifetime" thing!